Someone asked me not long ago what my thoughts were on marriage. So, I gave them the safe answer: I'm not opposed to it, but it doesn't define me like it does some women. While at the very core this is completely true, there really is more to it than that.
Eventually I think I would like to get married if the right individual came along. The problem is, I am picky as fuck. No, seriously. I did the whole needy guy relationship thing & I will never do it again. I would rather die old, lonely & with cobwebs covering my kitty. Of course, that was a completely one sided relationship. Then there was that whole "I don't think there should have to be a piece of paper" thing.
Quite often I hear two concepts come up when the subject of marriage is discussed: sex & money. I call bullshit. OK, OK... I can see the sex part, but money, not so much. Even the sex doesn't matter to me, but I know I am weird in that regard. Neither of these concepts have ever made much sense to me. Yes, I know that humans are sexual beings & greedy fucks, but really, is that what you want to base a romantic relationship on? Think about it. If that is what is important to you that is all other people are going to see. You'll be telling your friends at parties that your significant other is rich & can fuck because, apparently, those are the only things that attracted you to them. Again, bullshit.
Here's what I am looking for: intelligence. That is first & foremost on my list. Yes, looks are important. We are visual creatures whether we like it or not, but they are secondary to me. Let's put it this way... I could meet the best looking guy on the face of the planet, but if he's stupid it will completely kill it for me. I just can't do stupid. Really.
They have to bring the funny & like to talk as well. One thing I adore is intelligent conversation. Liking some of the same things I do doesn't hurt, but at the same time I don't want to spend every waking hour with that individual. Time apart pursuing other things is good for a relationship. At the same time I do fully expect outings to places such as museums & whatnot as well as travel. After spending what amounted to about 11 years in an apartment without going anywhere outside the immediate area..... yeah. Besides, spending every waking moment with someone would not only be terribly boring, but would make me seriously want to stab someone in their sleep.
So intelligent, funny, good looking (read: tall), not a cocksucker. These are the few things I am looking for. Age is irrelevant. I mean, I am not looking for a 90 year old, but fuck, I'm not counting anyone out anymore. I'm not getting any younger damn it. If this were a previous century or even decade I would have been put out to pasture or shot long before now. I think they would have called me a spinster or a crazy old cat lady even though I have no cats.
OK, this did not go in the direction I intended at all. As usual I went all raccoon, saw something shiny and forgot what planet I was on. Go figure.
Posted at 03:00 pm by Zombie
April 11, 2012 07:18 AM PDT
definitely intelligent conversation. :)
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